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They’re your best Friends

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Dec

The whole time I was growing up, my parents had a mantra. I’m one of four kids, and my parents tried to convince us that we were best friends. It was a tough sell, especially since I’m the oldest by four years, and growing up my attitude was that my next closest sibling was a smart aleck boy, and the other two were big babies.

Ripped my painstakingly crafted paper flowers. “That’s your brother. You are best friends.”

Followed me around copying everything I did. “That’s your sister. You are best friends.”

Threw a temper tantrum and wouldn’t stop knocking into stuff in the basement family room. “That’s your brother. You are best friends.”

Their point was to instill in us an appreciation for each other. We weren’t going to get out of interacting with one another, and there was a long-range vision at work — they wanted us to see that we would be in each other’s lives for just that — our entire lives — and we should see one another for our fun individual personalities.

This may seem an obvious truth, but the idea of being friends rather than only siblings widens the scope of interactions. It creates an expectation of enjoyment and of knowing each other more than just an obligatory way (“We’ve got to see them at Thanksgiving…hrumph, huff, puff.”). You trust in friends, you rely on friends, you like your friends. And planting the idea that siblings can be friends as well as brother and sister, it communicates something about the kind of relationship my parents had with their siblings, as well as what they hoped for their own children.

Happily, they were right, and my brothers and my sister and I are friends. We do enjoy each other’s company and especially in this season of learning how to live without our Dad, we are the only ones who truly “get it” about how hard this is. They are dear to me.

Now that we all have children of our own, I wonder how that “you’re best friends” mantra will play out for them. Looks like I’ve got a way to go to help my own kids to appreciate one another…

Child 1 to Child 2: I love you.  Child 2 to Child 1: I sort of like you.

Child 1 to Child 2: I love you.
Child 2 to Child 1: I sort of like you.

Today’s post is a link up with Five Minute Friday and Kate Motaung. Write for five minutes, no editing, no worrying, then link it up. You can read more posts at her site.

Question for you: do you get along with your siblings? Nobody’s perfect, of course, but if you desire a closer relationship with a sibling, is there one step you could take to foster that friendship? Can’t wait to hear from you in the comments!

 

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Discussion: Comments {4} Filed Under: Family, Five Minute Friday, Friendship, Parenting, Uncategorized

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  1. Gabriele says

    December 6, 2014 at 9:38 am

    Hi there! Thank-you for visiting my website and leaving such a nice message. I encourage your artistic pursuits. They can heal disconnection and the stress of life.
    I really liked your post. I’m including a quote which I found yesterday backing up your premise that siblings can light up your life.

    Robin Marantz Hennig
    The benefits can carry into old age. The literature on sibling relationships shows that during middle age and old age, indicators of well-being — mood, health, morale, stress, depression, loneliness, life satisfaction — are tied to how you feel about your brothers and sisters.
    In one Swedish study, satisfaction with sibling contact in one’s 80s was closely correlated with health and positive mood — more so than was satisfaction with friendships or relationships with adult children. And loneliness was eased for older people in a supportive relationship with their siblings, no matter whether they gave or got support.

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  2. Michelle says

    December 6, 2014 at 10:24 am

    Great post and good reminder that we need to like our siblings, not just loved them. I might try that best friend mantra on my four.

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  3. Stacy says

    December 7, 2014 at 8:38 am

    Being raised by a single mom back in the day when divorce wasn’t common, there was plenty of sibling stuff going on, and yet we were protective of each other whenever someone was having a hard time. When our mom went through her 8 year journey of Alzheimers, we became super close. Now we are all best friends, though the “boys” both live out of state. I always feel sad for people who aren’t close to their siblings. Stacy
    What a blessing to have each other to lean on during this hard time, Tanya.

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  4. Diana Rockwell says

    December 7, 2014 at 11:40 am

    I only have one sibling but he is my best brother/friend. I often call him my baby brother even though he is older than I am. I am a part of my husband’s family and his sisters and I have a good relationship. Such a great reminder. I am one of your five minute Friday buddies. Blessings Diana

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