I’m loving these Five Minute Fridays. Each week, Lisa-Jo Baker (http://lisajobaker.com) chooses a word prompt and people write unedited for five minutes flat. The idea is for me to get out of my own way and just write without the burden of perfection. It’s been fun to meet other bloggers and see the different ways people go with the prompt. Anyone can be a part of the action, so maybe you want to try and link up sometime soon?
Five Minute Friday
Prompt: Brave
One of my friends, a curly-haired henna head, is a gifted artist and performer. She says and does things that other people would never dream of doing. For her, it is no big deal to get in front of people and say outrageous things that are both hilarious and inappropriate (maybe that’s why they are so funny?).
Another friend is quiet and reserved. She serves behind the scenes and avoids any extra attention. She’s thoughtful and considerate.
What might send my one friend thrills of excitement would send my other friend to the bathroom with dry heaves.
Here is a good general principle I’ve found: what is a brave step for one person is easily accomplished before breakfast for someone else. Courage comes when you push past fear to do the thing that scares you.
Putting the pen to paper may be a huge step of bravery for one person.
Saying aloud the question they’ve had in their minds may be that step for someone else.
Just opening a search for a new job may be a huge act of faith, regardless of whether an interview is ever secured.
For me, today, my act of bravery is to say aloud that as a Christian, I do not have all the answers. I’m starting to think that the Bible might not have something literal to say about every single aspect of the nuances of modern life.
I do not feel comfortable with the representation the loudest voices are making on my behalf.
I’m tired of hearing about “speaking the truth in love” to people with whom there is no relationship, which would give the slightest responsibility to speak that truth.
I’m tired of the Church being a force of marginalization, polarization and alienation.
I want to be a source of absurd grace, which I truly see in the example of Jesus. So why does it feel like an act of bravery to say that out loud? Maybe it is because the Church only lets grace apply to certain areas of life and not others. Maybe there is an unspoken understanding that there really is a hierarchy of sins, and that some acts are worse than others. So your act of homosexuality, abortion or being a female leader takes up more of the apparently exhaustible bounty of Christ’s grace than my selfishness, envy or gossip. Don’t bogart the grace, man. Is that really what we believe? Cause that’s what it looks like. God’s love is not a limited commodity.
Whew. Well, that came out of nowhere! Thanks for letting me share from the heart. Apparently this is what happens when I silence my inner editor/censor. Putting this out into the world really does scare me, but I am being brave today, hoping we can start a respectful conversation.
What is your reaction to this post? Do you have opinions or feelings about “absurd grace” or the idea of a hierarchy of sins? I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences. And as always, thanks for reading!
imagineparenting says
You go girl! Amen. We are to be His hands and feet and He did not alienate or judge. He loved, with a full measure of grace for each and every person.
The Inkubator says
Thank you so much for not yelling at me. I don’t know exactly why, but this felt so scary to post. So thanks for being my first comment and a positive one. Yes! “…a full measure of grace for each and every person.” *sends hugs*
chrismorriswrites says
I agree, 100%! I used to be ashamed of calling myself a Christian, because of what others make that word mean. I’ve decided recently I want to reclaim the right meaning of the word Christian, by living the life I think Jesus calls us to live — generous, open, forgiving. Boy, it’s hard though — and I commend you for your bravery!
The Inkubator says
Thanks, Chris. It is hard, isn’t it? There was controversy recently about the guy from Mumford and Sons not identifying himself as “Christian” and even the reaction by loud Christians about his choice made the whole point, didn’t it? Let’s all reclaim the right meaning by living it out. Thanks for stopping by and taking time to comment.
chrismorriswrites says
I tend to think a lot of people should talk less and love more. I don’t include blogging in this “talk less” though, necessarily, so long as it’s related to building community and glorfying our God.
sarahlangdon says
Sometimes I think that today’s church is a mirror of the Pharisees in Jesus’ day. My husband were “prayed out” of a church because we questioned something. How’s that for grace?
The Inkubator says
I am sincerely so sorry you were treated that way. I think you’re onto something to compare the church now with the Pharisees. There seem to be quite a few parallels. I think that some people are truly afraid that if they question one thing, it will cause their whole system of faith to crumble. I see asking questions as evidence of a faith that’s truly dynamic and growing. Therefore, in my humble opinion, keep questioning.
Lisa-Jo Baker (@lisajobaker) says
“I want to be a source of absurd grace” – me too.
LJ
The Inkubator says
Thank you so much for stopping by. I hope we can both be a source of absurd grace to those around us.~Blessings
amypboyd says
You have put into beautiful words the struggle that has been in my heart more and more lately. I love your passion and how strong (and brave) you are.
The Inkubator says
Thank you so much. You are too kind.
Susan says
Over and over and over the Word of God exhorts us to do what? Judge? Chastise? Condemn? Um, no. Love. Love one another. Love your neighbor. Love your enemy. Love yourself. Love your brothers. Love the Lord your God. The greatest of these is LOVE. If we would just really and truly do this one thing, the grace would naturally follow, wouldn’t it? Why is it so hard? Good job, Nita. Way to be brave, my friend.
The Inkubator says
Thank you, Susan. (I’m still a little scared. What a baby!) It seems that we often doubt the ability of the Holy Spirit to do His job, so we try to take over. Someone wrote that the church is starting to be identified as all the things it is against, rather than all the things it stands for. That’s a significant problem, in my opinion. I agree that the greatest of these is LOVE. We should be focusing our energy on learning how to better love and encourage people. Thanks for sharing, friend.