At a thrift store I found fascinator hats. At least I’m pretty sure that’s what they’re called, or they’re in the style of a fascinator. Hang on, I’ll show you:
Not quite a hat, this one clips into your hair.
The thought of wearing one of these in public makes me happy. I don’t know if I’d actually have the guts to do it and just head over to the grocery store. You need a destination. Maybe the thing I’m drawn to is the joy of wearing something you like and not caring if other people like it. Maybe it’s the feathers, or the fact there might be an occasion associated with it, a happy reason to wear it.
For most people upon seeing someone wearing this, they might ask if it was a dare or if the person lost a bet. That’s totally understandable.
More than being caught in public with a crazy hair adornment, there’s something else that feels like a dare to me.
The idea makes my heart pound. I’m usually an extrovert, someone who enjoys meeting new people, making conversation, noise, crowds.
This idea overwhelms me and I try to make a plan for how I can get out of it.
The idea of going to a party is suddenly a terrible notion, something that’s to be avoided. Me, the extrovert, looks for excuses or overlapping commitments so I don’t have to stay too long. I imagine being in a room with people who I’ve had interactions with in the past, before my dad got sick. How can I possibly act as if nothing has shifted in the world since then? How can I fill the conversation on light, fluffy things when the hole of his absence looms large in every room I enter?
A hat. That’s the answer. An unusual hat. I need a hat as a distraction, as a conversation piece. That will let me steer any questioning up to my head.
Now you’ll know if you see me, that you should ask about the hat and then let me control the conversation. Deal?
Here are two more, just so you’ll be able to recognize me:
A fetching number in navy.
This one strikes me as the most wild.
For our communal entertainment and because it’s Friday, let’s change things up. In the comments section tell me which headband/fascinator hat you’d wear and what it would take to get you to wear it in public. Can’t wait to see what you say!
Today was a linkup with Kate Motaung who is now the lovely host of Five Minute Friday. The word prompt was “dare” and if you want to read other posts, click here .
I LOVE the first one however I think I’d need attend a costume party in order to dare wearing it out! 🙂
I would totally wear the one on the bottom. Probably the one on top is a second choice. In public? Sure! Just ask. 😀
All 3 at the same thrift store? Kind of a jackpot! I’d wear either of the blue ones. It would help if my kids were in costume with me 😉
I like the first one! I actually have a fascinator, it’s a bit more tame than these three, but it always gets more comments than I like when I wear it. I tend to wear it to church, the men always comment. I should really get to work on those signs. Peace to you, courage in the midst of finding your new normal.
ohhhh…such crazy fun!!! I think we are getting near the place where we live…without care of what others may think or say…live and breathe and perhaps inspire, or compel someone else to ‘dare’ to live out loud, too.
I shall never wipe my memory of you driving out of the parking lot wearing your feathers…tears and laughter in one very tender moment.
I was kind of hoping that since you liked hat #3 the best, you might just ship # 1 my way. I love the color, and I can just imagine the joy I would feel watching those little feathers bounce up and down before my eyes! Now THAT is one fabulous hat ; )
And I’m old, so who would ever question my taste? They’d simply nod and flash that “Awww, sweetie” look at me!
I like the middle one. I would have to be dared to wear it by a friend who was also wearing one, and who twisted my arm and misrepresented said fascinator to me, insisting that it was almost all feathers and very little bow. And then I would be glad I wore it. 🙂
I have no idea what you’re talking about. *whistles innocently* *walks away*
Hi there. Number 3 is my pick. I did wear one of those hats at the genre dinner at ACFW!!! It was pretty fun!!
See you Sunday? Hope so.
I think I saw a picture of that. How fun!
What a super fun idea for your post! Love it! What if, in response to, ” You need a destination”, life is your destination? Wanting to wear it is enough to make you wear it. Wanting to feel beautiful and special is enough to make you wear it. [Isn’t it tragic that we hold ourselves back so much? Why should the dictates around us stop us from expressing ourselves?].
I’d wear the last one. Just because it would make me smile to see people’s reactions. And I’d feel like Dita Von Teese. Which would be cool. For a night.